How Much Should You Offer on a Home? Finding Your Regret-Free Number

The Lighter Side of Real Estate • January 28, 2025

For many buyers, deciding what to offer on a home is one of the most nerve-wracking parts of the process. Buyers often find themselves wondering whether they should offer more or less than the asking price.

On one hand, buyers have always wanted to snag a home at the best possible price. Who wouldn’t love the satisfaction of getting a deal? On the other hand, in recent years, many buyers have grown accustomed to bidding wars and offering above asking price just to secure a property. It’s a tricky dance between those two instincts—saving money and winning the house—and it leaves many wondering: How much should I really offer?

Whichever camp you’re in, it’d be nice to have some cut and dry guidance on when you can come in lower, when you have to offer more than asking, and even some insight into how much above or below asking you should come in with your offer.

For instance, while this recent Realtor.com article about whether to offer below or above asking price might sound promising, unfortunately it isn’t the hard and fast answer you may be looking for. The advice basically boils down to:

  • If it’s a buyer’s market or the house has been on the market a long time, you can offer less than the asking price.
  • If it’s a seller’s market or a brand new listing, you’ll probably need to offer more than the asking price.
  • Either way, there’s no absolute answer to what you should do because it depends upon a lot of factors.
  • Ask your agent for help figuring out what to offer given your specific market, and the house you’re about to make an offer on.

All of that is true, but it doesn’t really provide the answer you may be looking for. That’s because there is no absolute answer.

While you should certainly listen to your agent’s insight and advice, it’s ultimately your decision how much to offer for a house. That’s why the best strategy is to find your “regret-free” number—the price that leaves you confident no matter what the outcome.

What Is a Regret-Free Number?

Your regret-free number is the amount you’re comfortable with in every possible scenario. It’s a price you won’t second-guess if the seller rejects your offer, and one you won’t regret if the seller accepts it. Achieving this balance requires careful thought and preparation.

Think of it this way: If the seller rejects your offer, will you wish you had offered more? If so, you haven’t hit your number yet. On the other hand, if the seller accepts your offer, will you feel uneasy about paying too much? That’s a sign you’ve gone too high. Your regret-free number sits in that sweet spot where you can confidently move forward, regardless of the seller’s response.

Tips for Determining Your Regret-Free Number

It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement (or frenzy) when you find a house you want to buy. Emotions can easily override logic, especially if you find yourself in a bidding war. But whether there is stiff competition or not, the amount you are willing to pay for the house should be determined by you, not by how many other buyers are making offers, or how much the seller wants.

Whether your final offer is above or below asking, determining your regret-free number for any particular house takes preparation, research, and a clear understanding of your financial limits. Here are some steps to guide you:

  1. Study the Market: Work with your agent to review comparable sales in the area. These comps give you an idea of what similar homes have sold for recently, helping you assess whether the asking price is fair. While many buyers wait until they are about to make an offer to review “comps” (and some never do!), you should begin reviewing sales data with your agent early on in your home search to get a feel for market values. This will help you make a much more informed decision than other buyers who are just reviewing sales data as they’re about to make an offer.
  2. Consider How Long You Plan to Stay In the Home. If this is your forever home, you might be willing to stretch your budget slightly for the perfect fit. However, if you think you’ll move again in a few years, it’s wise to stay within a more conservative range to ensure you don’t overpay relative to market trends.
  3. Know Your Limits: A mortgage pre-approval may say that you can technically afford the payments, but only you can determine if you can do so comfortably each month. Calculate how much you can comfortably afford, not just in terms of the purchase price but also monthly payments, closing costs, and future expenses.

Deciding how much to offer on a home doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By focusing on your regret-free number—the amount you can commit to without second-guessing—you can approach the process with clarity and confidence. Do your homework, rely on your agent’s expertise, and stay grounded in both your financial and emotional priorities. At the end of the day, the right number isn’t just one that secures the house—it’s one that leaves you feeling at peace with your decision.

Partner with an agent who truly understands the local market. From the earliest stages of your search, they can educate you on property values and market trends, giving you the knowledge you need to make informed decisions. By preparing ahead of time, you’ll be able to approach offers with confidence—whether it means going above, below, or right at the asking price. The more you know upfront, the easier it becomes to navigate the process and find your regret-free number.

The Takeaway:

Deciding how much to offer on a home can feel daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. By understanding the market, doing your research, and setting a regret-free number, you can approach the process with confidence. Work closely with your agent, stay focused on your priorities, and remember that the goal isn’t to get the “perfect” deal—it’s to find a home you love at a price you’re comfortable with. When you do that, you’ll know you made the right decision.


Share this post

By KCM February 19, 2026
Why So Many Homeowners Are Downsizing Right Now For a growing number of homeowners, retirement isn’t some distant idea anymore. It’s starting to feel very real. According to Realtor.com and the Census, nearly 12,000 people will turn 65 every day for the next two years . And the latest data shows as many as 15% of those older Americans are planning to retire in 2026. And another 23% will do the same in 2027. If you’re considering retiring soon too, here’s what you should be thinking about. Why Downsize? Now's the perfect time to reflect on what you want your life to look like in retirement. Because even though your finances will be going through a big change, you don’t necessarily want to feel like you’re living with less . But odds are, what you do want is for life to feel easier . Easier to enjoy. Easier to manage. Easier to maintain day-to-day. The Top Reasons People Over 60 Move You can see these benefits show up in the data when you look at why people over 60 are moving. The National Association of Realtors (NAR) finds the top 4 reasons aren’t about timing the market or chasing top dollar. They’re about lifestyle: Being closer to children, grandchildren, or long-time friends so it’s easier to spend more time with the people who matter most Wanting a smaller, more functional home with fewer stairs and easier upkeep Retiring and no longer needing to live near the office, so it’s easier to move wherever you want Opting for something smaller to reduce monthly expenses tied to utilities, insurance, and maintenance No matter the reason, the theme is the same: downsizing isn’t about giving something up. It’s about gaining control and choosing simplicity. And it brings peace of mind to know your home fits the years ahead, not the years behind. And the best part? It’s more financially feasible now than many homeowners would expect. The #1 Thing Helping So Many Homeowners Downsize Here’s the part that makes it possible. Thanks to how much home values have grown over the years, many longtime homeowners are realizing they’re in a stronger position than they thought to make that move. According to Cotality , the average homeowner today has about $299,000 in home equity . And for older Americans, that number is often even higher – simply because they’ve lived in their homes longer. When you stay in one place for years (or even decades), two things happen at the same time: Your home value has time to grow. Your mortgage balance shrinks or disappears altogether. That combination creates more options than you’d expect, even in today’s market. So, whether you just retired, or you're about to, it's not too soon to start thinking about what comes next. Sure, it can be hard to leave the house you made so many years of memories in, but maybe it’s time to close one chapter to open a new one that’s just as exciting. Bottom Line Downsizing is about setting yourself up for what comes next – on your terms. If retirement is on the horizon and you’ve started wondering what your current house (and your equity) could make possible, the first step isn’t selling. It’s understanding your options. Let’s talk. A simple, no-pressure conversation can help you see what downsizing might look like – and whether it makes sense for you.
By KCM February 18, 2026
The body content of your post goes here. To edit this text, click on it and delete this default text and start typing your own or paste your own from a different source.
By The Lighter Side of Real Estate February 15, 2026
You’ve probably seen the buzz lately about 50-year mortgages possibly hitting the U.S. market soon. If you haven’t come across it yet, you probably will—whether in a headline, a newsfeed scroll, or it’ll just be an option the next time you’re house hunting. At face value, it sounds like a pretty sweet deal for anyone feeling squeezed by prices and rates. Stretch the payments out over half a century, and suddenly that monthly bill looks a whole lot friendlier. What’s not to love, right? Well, that depends on your perspective. So before deciding whether this could be a game-changer or just another gimmick, let’s make sure you’ve got enough info to have an informed opinion… Lower Payments? Yes. Lower Costs? Not Exactly. For many, the appeal comes down to affordability. A longer loan term could help buyers qualify for homes that might otherwise be out of reach, or simply make monthly payments more comfortable. That part is true, but where there’s a “gimme” there’s a “gotcha.” While the monthly payment may drop, the total cost over time can skyrocket. Stretching a loan over half a century means paying additional interest for half a century. The “savings” you feel each month could easily be swallowed up—and then some—by what you’ll ultimately pay in interest. Just Another “New” Option A 50-year mortgage might sound new and exciting, but it’s really just another option that isn’t currently offered. (Well, at least not all that often.) Buyers already have plenty of choices when it comes to loan terms: 10-, 15-, 20-, and 30-year mortgages are all standard options. Add in the mix of fixed-rate and adjustable-rate structures, and you’ve got a wide range of combinations designed to fit different financial situations. But more often than not, people lean toward the 30-year fixed rate loans. Technically, 40- and even 50-year mortgages already exist, though they’re rare in the U.S. and typically not backed by government programs. According to The White Coat Investor , they’re far more common in Europe, where ultra-long-term loans have been part of the financial landscape for years. A Matter of Perspective Whether a 50-year loan sounds appealing often comes down to your personal philosophy, and your tolerance for long-term debt. Some buyers lean toward shorter-term loans—like 15 or 20-year mortgages—because they want to own their home free and clear sooner and pay less in interest. Someone taking this approach, especially with a 15-year fixed or adjustable-rate mortgage, is often very disciplined about paying extra each month to chip away at the principal. To them, the vast majority of people opting for a 30-year fixed loan might look like they’re squandering money by stretching payments out unnecessarily and paying far more interest than they need to. On the flip side, 30-year borrowers often see the world differently. They value lower monthly payments and the flexibility it provides—whether to invest elsewhere, cover lifestyle costs, or just have breathing room in the budget. To them, those who aggressively tackle a 15-year loan might seem either a little extreme… or just downright wealthy to be able to afford such high payments. So, just like 15-year buyers might shake their heads at 30-year loans, 30-year borrowers will likely question a 50-year term. The point is, there’s no “right” choice. It’s about what makes you comfortable financially and psychologically. Is It Worth the Monthly Savings? Whether the monthly savings makes sense really depends on your perspective and personal situation. Everyone’s circumstances are different, so this is a question only you can answer for yourself. When you’re considering what type of loan and terms to choose, you’ll need to crunch the numbers at that moment—current rates, your credit score, and other factors will all play a role. But to give you some general perspective, HousingWire did some math you might find useful. According to the article, stretching a loan out to 50 years might shave around $100–$200 off your monthly payment compared to a 30-year mortgage. That’s not nothing—it could make a tight budget feel a little more comfortable. However, because you’re paying interest for an extra 20 years (or more), the total cost over the life of the loan can balloon dramatically. In the examples they gave, the interest payments were more than double what they would have been with a 30-year loan. And we’re talking hundreds of thousands of dollars. That “nice little savings” each month comes at the expense of paying far more in the long run. So yes, you’ll feel relief each month with a lower payment, but over decades, your home ends up costing a lot more than the purchase price. That’s the trade-off. A 50-year mortgage isn’t inherently bad; it’s just a choice between short-term comfort and long-term savings. And it’s a choice worth thinking through carefully before signing anything. The Takeaway: The idea of a 50-year mortgage might sound like a silver bullet for housing affordability, but the reality is more nuanced. Sure, it could make monthly payments a bit lighter—but it could also cost much more in the long run and potentially nudge home prices even higher. As with most things in real estate, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. It’s not necessarily right or wrong, it’s about what’s right for you. The key is to understand exactly what you’re signing up for before committing to a loan that could last longer than most careers.
Show More